Child and adolescent mental health experts have advised parents not to see their children’s tantrums as mere stubbornness or attempts to manipulate. They warned that such behaviour could be signs of deeper emotional or psychological problems.
The experts explained that while tantrums can be a normal part of growing up, frequent outbursts, mood swings, withdrawing from others, or trouble sleeping might show that a child needs emotional support and attention.
Speaking at the recent Child and Adolescent Mental Health Summit, Professor of Psychiatry, Dr. Tinuola Gunwa-Ajayi, said parents who ignore these signs might miss early warnings of mental health struggles in their children.
Dr. Gunwa-Ajayi explained that if these issues are not addressed early, they could develop into serious mental health problems in the teenage years or adulthood.
“Children don’t throw tantrums for no reason. Even if it seems minor, parents should pay attention. If a lively child suddenly becomes quiet, doesn’t want to go out, has trouble sleeping or eating, or stops enjoying things they used to like, that’s a warning sign,” she said.
She advised parents not to ignore these changes but to ask their children meaningful questions and seek professional help when needed. She added that more parents are now becoming aware of mental health issues.
Dr. Gunwa-Ajayi encouraged parents to create special one-on-one time with each child. She suggested setting aside a specific time each week for personal conversations, free from distractions like phones or TV.
She explained that regular check-ins, such as asking how their day went after school, can reveal a lot about a child’s feelings. Ignoring these small talks might mean missing important signs of distress.
She urged parents to be intentional about spending dedicated time with their children, especially over weekends. This gives children a chance to share their worries, knowing they have their parents’ full attention.
The mental health expert stressed the importance of raising awareness, encouraging open conversations, and seeking professional help to protect children’s mental well-being.
Also speaking at the event, UK-based paediatrician, Dr. Ebi Oginni, said it is important to make mental health discussions a normal part of life.
She shared that in the UK, one in six teenagers faces mental health challenges, and suicide has become the leading cause of death among teenagers.
Dr. Oginni pointed out that 25% of adults with mental health problems started showing signs during their teenage years.
She advised participants to recognise when they need help and know where to find it. She encouraged them to talk to parents, trusted friends, youth workers, coaches, or counsellors for support.
Dr. Oginni recommended practical mental health practices such as journaling, positive affirmations, breathing exercises, talk therapy, and meditation.
Heritage Gardens’ Governance and Compliance Manager, Theresa Gunwa-Jatto, said the summit was organised to create more awareness about mental health challenges among children and teenagers.
She explained that mental health issues have long been ignored and stigmatised, especially in developing countries, and even though the topic is now more common, many people still don’t fully understand its impact.
Gunwa-Jatto stressed that mental health awareness must begin with children. Teaching children early can make a bigger difference than trying to change adults’ mindsets.
She said educating children helps them recognise mental health challenges in themselves and others, reducing stigma, bullying, and promoting kindness.
She noted that over 40 participants attended the two-day summit, which aimed to raise awareness and build a better future for young Nigerians.
